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The relationship background is that we've been dating for a little over 3 months. Neither has anyone seen her naked before. She is quite bubbly and friendly, but usually very reserved and shy when it comes to romantic or sexual topics. We are pretty commited to the relationship and both think that it will be a lost lasting one. Somehow they started talking about how long she will take and what she will have to do in the shower and that ended in them talking about shaving genitals.
He was saying that it takes guys way longer because they have more stuff to work around apparently he didn't know that girls grow hair on and around their labia, instead of just the pubic mound and she was saying that it's the other way around. They kept going back and forth and at some point all of a sudden she said she'd prove she's right which was really out of character for her.
She then asked me if that's okay and not knowing how serious she is and being flustered by the events I just shrugged and said sure. So she took us both to the washroom and to my utter surprise she actually proceeded to get bottomless before hopping into the bath tub and shaving her vagina right in front of us. That was the very first time I have seen her in any stage of undress and it was the first time ever for her to be seen naked by anyone. My guess is having been repressed sexually for so long she probably has exhibitionist fantasies which she decided to carry out.
A little weird but not necessarily indicative of anything terrible on it's own. Everyones got kinks, if you like her and this is the only thing that's happened, I'd just ignore it. If it upset you then speak with her about it and ask her not to do that sort of thing anymore. She shouldn't have put you on the spot like that. Also a little weird that you were cool with your friend just standing there next to you watching your girl naked for the first time together, shaving a vagina isnt quick. Did things just go back to normal after? Did you and your friend talk about what happened?
After she was done, we all went to grab some dinner and then everyone went home. Didn't really get the chance to talk one on one. You think I should? I grew up Mormon and fairly repressed. Maybe she just needs space to express parts of herself that were locked away forcibly by her upbringing. I think communication is key, and possibly one of the best things to help her to work through this stuff and discover her true self. Maybe she has a fetish for having people watch her shave herself?
You sound a bit reserved, try talking to her about what she wants and be open-minded! Just because she is a virgin does not mean she is not sexual. This is not a good way to start a relationship bro.
Not one of monogamy. If she wasnt your girl friend, that would be vastly different, but this is not just weird, this is something you need to talk and clear your head about what you want and what you project with her in the futuro. Honestly I would cut the relationship in that instante, but that would be me. Except if you wait too long. Good luck! Bail, shes a how waiting to bloom. Not to be rude but you hadn't done anything with her and the first time you see her nude your boy is there? She ain't loyal.
As people have stated, the sexual repression is what can amplify that and make people do things in the moment when experiencing a burst of sexuality for the first time. There is a chance she was partially into your friend too simply because of the talk and situation, but likely scenario is simply that she wants to explore her sexuality urgently and you should talk to her about that and consider it to be a good thing.
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Your fault for saying sure You need to talk to her about this. You should talk to her about it, as to why she did. You really need to think what you want about this relationship.
Talk to her and enjoy. Unless ofcourse you want to continue to hold out on your own sexuality. I believe you.